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152 Seconds

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That's how long it took for someone to value me,152 seconds; crazy, right?

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It's the awareness I want to bring to you today.

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Interacting with people on social media has shown some hidden and unaware areas of development.

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What's most potent of them all is Incongruncey.

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As a result, it's affecting our identity, harming us, and many are oblivious to it.

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They believe they've got a solid foundation for their identity, yet the cracks are starting to show.

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Someone reached out to me in the conversation below; they saw me on social media once!

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Let's explore it:

They used all the tricks we are commonly taught today.

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Lucky for us, we are no ordinary bunch. 😉

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You can have the 'best' product in the world, but everything fails if your identity isn't congruent.

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Here's why their identity is reflected negatively:

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#1 → Overcompensation - Plenty of compliments

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I got 6 compliments.

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Legend

Killing it

Love your energy

So amazing bro

Strong, clear nature

Awesome to meet you

Never get high on your supply.

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When you are in complete certitude of self, you do not need validation.

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It’s nice to hear; sure, it's all icing on the cake.

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Insight

→ They've failed to show the qualities of someone who values people.

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Be critical of the compliments you receive; if it's not something direct, specific, or relevant and with a reason, it's all fluff.

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Something like this sounds better:

"Hey, Anks, I've been following you for a while now, and I notice you speak about purpose; it's different, refreshing and provokes thought."

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#2 → Lack of Interest

Genuine interest means they react, interact, and engage.

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They'll question your perspective, ideas, and thoughts.

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Anything that compelled them or created intrigue.

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In this case, my questions were avoided.

'Anything particularly resonated with you?'

'How have you come to do what you do?'

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Insight

→ They show ignorance, self-inclination and have no genuine interest.

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Always test someone's level of interest, and provoke them to tell you what they found helpful. More importantly, why.

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If their reasoning is shallow, provoke them more.

Only settle once you are innately satisfied with the reason.

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Remember, the person who leads the conversation is the one who asks the most questions, get curious and never easily give your power to others.

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#3 → No Brainer Offer

152 seconds for them to determine that I might be a "good fit."

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These offers are made to shift your state into a mode of 'trusting'.

Get you to put your guard down - never put your guard down!

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This method isn't necessarily wrong - We need a bigger picture.

That doesn't come from their processes and method.

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Be more concerned about the person's intentions.

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Insight

→ They've failed to reflect on who they are.

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The carrot on the stick should not be a reason for your decision-making.

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We have to source more information: Them and the product.

**If there is no alignment between both, question it!

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My observations:

• Their following is low - Why aren't more people following them
• Their sense of confidence in their videos is low.
• Their presence digitally is non-existent.
• High-value offer but has low-value relationships skills

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Action Steps

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It took 152 seconds to determine this person in their entirety.

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Plenty of skills yet needs much reeducation on critical people skills.

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How someone treats others is a reflection of how they uphold themselves.

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Remember, many factors determine success and are often left to presupposition. Nobody can command every 'working force' at their will.

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If it took someone ten years to develop a system that promises it will help you in 1 month is ludicrous! - We'd all be rich.

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Life is experimental; you need tools for problem-solving, not solutions that supposedly fix the problem.

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Lessons

→ Our identity shows in our actions and language - develop a better you.

→ Be critical in the understanding of others to avoid exploitation.

→ Never put your guard down - develop more substantial parameters

→ Rely less on quick-step education, get masterful in people skills

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Don't let your identity harm your growth.